Research has found some folks have more “masculine” or “feminine” personalities (regardless of their sex), some androgyous people tend toward the center of the bell-curve of “masculine/feminine” traits, some androgynous people move between the more stereotypical traits depending on the context. The point is there’s a place for everyone
and we need each of these four groups.
Firefighters regardless of sex are going to be macho because that what they need to do their job. It takes certain personality traits to head into a fire, a storm, whatever when everyone else is fleeing away from it. This may not be “macho” per se, but it’s the sort of traits commonly considered to be part of being macho. Care givers regardless of sex are going to be nuturing for the same reason.
It is interesting that in studies on tomboyism, researchers have found two distinct styles of tomboys. There’s a small group that completely rejects comforming with girl’s gender roles and sometimes even that they’re female themselves. (The girls do have a higher incidence of becoming trans and lesbians in later life.) But the far more common type, which about half of girls do, is an exploration of broadening their range of behaviors, i.e. playing with dolls and trucks. I have a suspicion that crossdressing is in part caused because boys aren’t allowed an equivalent period of janegirlism. (Crossdressers who start early, i.e. age 5-6, in particular seem to mention an attraction to wanting to be able to wear the same pretty clothes as girls did.) Those “feminine” desires, emotions and behavior get repressed by society and so they become something we subconsciously fixate on until they come out in other ways, i.e. crossdressing.
