In a discussion about fucking it was interesting to see how all the references were to “penetration” (even by the women). So why do we always seem to think of it as “penetration”? I suspect if men magically had their genitalia switched with women, it wouldn’t be long before we would start bragging about “enveloping” women (...and of course who’s tampon was bigger. ). Not sure if women ever think of it that way…

I’ve been re-reading “My Husband Betty” and it struck the well-known T* fondness for giving-head sexual fantasies, may in part have a simpler explanation that the reasons Helen cites (not that I think her reasons are wrong): it’s that while giving a blowjob a symbol of manhood is quite literally under your nose. I suppose if we want to be scientific, we could call it the “phallic proximity” theory.

I know women who love giving head in part for precisely that reason. This was regardless of whether they had bottom or top overtones to blowjobs, i.e. submitting to have his penis in their mouth or enjoying the control they had over his response. And since most of us males are such visual critters, it’s probably got even more of an appeal for us. After all, being penetrated isn’t something straight guys normally do either, but without mirrors on the ceiling it’s a lot tougher to actually watch yourself being taken that way.