The good news is that the installing soffit and roof vents, plus replacing the skylights so that they open now does seem to be making a big difference: the house is about 10-15 degrees cooler than the outside temperature and cools down much faster at night, when things cool down rapidly. But it still would be nice to install central air (although not A/C) since having a fan to move air around inside the house would make a big difference, plus the air filter would be better for my allergies compared to throwing open the windows.

While we’re on the subject… It’s not uncommon for religious bigots posing as “reasonable people” to argue that protections for LGBT people are “different” (i.e. less legitimate) than those against racial protections because LGBT people supposedly chose their “lifestyle,” as the bigots usually put it. Sadly it’s too-often an argument put forth by bigoted people of color.

Sadly too, the “it’s not choice” argument we in the LGBT communities too often buy into ourselves, sometimes invoking contorted personal histories to reassure ourselves and others that “it’s not my fault” that I’m [insert descriptor here].” Now before everyone starts firing up the flamethrowers, I do think both sex/gender identity and sexual orientation can—and usually do have—a biological component; and I recognize that the “born that way” argument is in part driven by the way U.S. civil rights law is written—since it generally (and I’ll come back to that point in a minute) holds that innate characteristics are protected and personal choices aren’t. But the thing is, both sex/gender identity and sexual orientation are spectrums—even though our society generally views them as binaries—and while there’s a hard-wired aspect about where one falls on that spectrum, biology isn’t destiny. Which is why the “it’s not a choice” argument always has an Achilles Heel: there’s just too many examples of people choosing to act in ways contrary to their “nature”—from “political lesbians” (some of whom weren’t necessarily sexually attracted to women) to men who engage is same-sex act when they aren’t women available (in prison, among immigrant populations, etc.) to people who choose to remain closeted about their sex/gender identity and/or sexual orientation (even if they pay a heavy emotional cost for doing so).

So we’d be a lot more honest if we acknowledge that choice can play a role in how one’s sex/gender identity and sexual orientation gets expressed. But religion is a choice too and we still see fit to protect people from religious discrimination. Now the religious bigots in the United States would point out that’s because those protections are written into the Constitution. And they’re right. In fact protections against religious discrimination predate by decades (if not centuries) protections against discrimination based on race, sex, pregnancy, national origins, disability or age. But the common thread among all of these is that they involve aspects that are so central to who someone is that we consider them worthy of protection.

If the Framers were willing to protect a “chosen” part of one’s core identity, why shouldn’t we?

It wasn’t a spur-of-the-moment decision that drove Brewster High School student Michael Loscalzo to go to school dressed as a girl.

“Years of taking judgment made me decide to stick up for myself,” said Loscalzo, 17. “All my life, people either said I was weird or that I was gay.”

The Brewster High School sophomore recently revealed his secret about his desire to become a woman by going to class wearing makeup and feminine attire. His choice has reverberated through the halls.

Loscalzo said school officials warned him Friday that he could be suspended if he continued to cross-dress, a claim that administrators denied yesterday.

In a show of support, several students have organized an “Equality Protest” this week, by showing up to school dressed in garments of the opposite sex.

Yesterday, about a dozen teens gathered at a local deli with boys wearing skirts, wigs and dresses and girls donning caps, cargo pants and T-shirts. They said about 60 students cross-dressed yesterday, though school officials said the number was far less.

“We want Mike to feel more comfortable in his surroundings,” said senior Shannon Dodd, 18, one of the organizers. “We’re letting the student body know that it’s OK to dress this way.”...

As for news coverage, Ina explained to me that most media outlets at that time still had no consistency in how they applied pronouns to transgender people, often identifying individuals by their gender of birth—not gender appearance or expression. Now, most newspapers have adopted a policy to use a transgender person’s chosen name and pronoun. For instance, the San Jose Mercury News, after repeatedly failing in how it identified transgender individuals in the much-publicized murder of Gwen Araujo, adopted this much more fair and accurate policy:

We encourage you to ask transgender people which pronoun they would like you to use. If it is not possible to ask the person which pronoun he or she prefers, use the pronoun that is consistent with the person’s appearance and gender expression. Also, please do not put quotation marks around gender pronouns, suggesting that the pronoun does not reflect the person’s true sex.

If you think this is a case of “special” treatment, think again. We in the media often use the chosen names of celebrities as both a measure of respect and clarity rather than insisting on using their birth name. (For instance, Muhammad Ali is no longer referred to by his birth name, Cassius Clay; similarly, we all know the former Cherilyn Sarkisian as the one-syllable diva: Cher.)

Petrow also offers a nice bit of context:

Many in the LGBT community have wondered whether the transgender community will see “some backlash” from the Beatie story and whether it will hinder the movement toward greater social acceptance of transgender individuals. When you have Letterman saying someone is a “freak show,” you’ve got a bit of a problem. This reminds me, though, of another so-called problem. In the late 1980s and early 1990s, as gays and lesbians sought greater visibility and acceptance, more conservative members of our “community” (which I put in quotation marks here because there was a decided lack of community in their views) argued vociferously that leather men, drag queens, porn stars and transvestites should go to the back of the lavender bus because they were not good PR vehicles for the gay rights movement. In short, we were urged to put our “best” faces forward: The Brooks Brother Homosexual.

Hunter Madsen (along with the late Marshall Kirk, both tidy young men, then) wrote the seminal treatise on this: After the Ball: How America Will Conquer Its Fear and Hatred of Gays in the ‘90s. They argued against shock tactics—like PDAs in the street—and in favor of a Madison Avenue-like public relations campaign that aimed to make gays more mediagenic (think Will & Grace). Looking back over the nearly two decades since their book was published, we can easily see that acceptance of gays and lesbians has been helped by our mainstream brothers and sisters: Ellen DeGeneres (TV superstar), Armistead Maupin (Tales of the City) and Greg Louganis (Olympian) as examples. Yet, don’t mistake the power of our more outré companions in shaping the culture, in pushing the culture: the “divine” filmmaker John Waters; NPR’s most famous “lisper,” David Sedaris; and the androgynous chanteuse k.d. lang. Madsen and Kirk would likely have chosen to obfuscate this latter trio of LGBT heroes in their PR campaign for gay acceptance—and what a sadder, more narrow world that would have been for everyone. Similarly, Beatie might not be the poster child for transgender acceptance that some would like. Too bad, I say. He’s one among many, and if we know anything from recent history, it’s the importance of each of us standing up to be visible, recognized and accepted for who we are.

BTW, I’d also like to give kudos to Portland Mercury columnist Ann Romano, who reconsidered and apologized in print after an incredibly offensive and transphobic column about Beatie.

I went back to what I wrote, and was very disturbed by what I saw. In attempting to honestly express my confusion about how Beatie could be pregnant and still identify as a man, I only succeeded in further marginalizing some very worthy individuals who should be admired for bucking mainstream norms.

No shit.

The defense attorney for the alleged killer in the hate-crime murder of Lawrence King argues it’s the victim’s fault for not conforming to gender norms.

King, who was openly gay and had begun wearing make-up, earrings, and high-heeled boots to his junior high school, had been harassed by other students, including Brandon McInerney, 14, who is charged with shooting King twice in the back the head during an English class shortly after school started. Fellow students said they witnessed confrontations between the two in the days before the shooting, including King’s teasing McInerney and telling him that he liked him.

But to hear McInerney’s defense attorney tell it, the problem was that King should have been closeted and straight-acting:

[Senior Deputy Public Defender William] Quest said he believes school administrators supported one student expressing himself and his sexuality — King — and ignored how it affected other kids, despite complaints. Cross-dressing isn’t a normal thing in adult environments, he said, yet 12-, 13- and 14-year-olds were expected to just accept it and go on.

Now if you’ve ever been around a courthouse, you’ll know that blaming victims, sullying their reputations, and/or claiming they provoked the accused are part of the standard repertoire of the defense, whose job it is to raise doubts. Disappointingly, I’ve heard comments on various LGBTQ blogs that McInerney’s attorney is “just doing his job” and obligated to make the best argument he can for his client. But while the latter is true, there are a variety of arguments that aren’t allowed in court because society considers them illegitimate and unacceptable.

If a student killed another student for dressing “differently” because they wore a yarmulke or a head scarf, or a t-shirt with a biblical quote on it, we’d call it for what was: religious bigotry.

If a white student killed a black student for creating a “disruption” simply by attending school, we’d call what it was: racist.

If a teenage boy shot a girl he didn’t like because she kept flirting with him, we wouldn’t consider that a justifiable provocation.

Society and the law don’t consider any of these valid excuses for the accused’s actions, or reasons for lesser punishment; in fact, California specifically outlawed the infamous “gay panic” defense in the wake of the public revulsion about its use by the murderers of trans woman Gwen Araujo—a law that Quinn seems to be trying to do an end-run around by claiming it was King who was doing the harassing, when in fact King was just standing up to a bigger, stronger bully. A bully who allegedly decided to put the “uppity faggot” in his place: six feet underground. This wasn’t a panic. This wasn’t a provoked killing. It was a planned, cold-blooded execution.

Being different shouldn’t be a death sentence, and a “back to the closet” defense shouldn’t be tolerated.

[Senior Deputy Public Defender William] Quest said he believes school administrators supported one student expressing himself and his sexuality — King — and ignored how it affected other kids, despite complaints. Cross-dressing isn’t a normal thing in adult environments, he said, yet 12-, 13- and 14-year-olds were expected to just accept it and go on.

O you who know what we suffer here, do not forget us in your prayers.

Recent months have brought several disturbing events in our community. Lawrence King was shot in his classroom after being teased and harassed for being gay. Simmie Williams was killed while wearing a dress in Fort Lauderdale. Just yesterday, Duchy Trachtenberg, a Montgomery County Council member who authored a bill outlawing discrimination against transgendered people, announced that she is receiving death threats.

And Joe Solmonese is running around telling our legislators to vote for a non-inclusive ENDA bill?

When King was shot, The LA Times covered the event as a local story. While the LGBT blogsphere immediately spread the news, the mainstream media took much longer to cover the story.

Last year, six African-American teenagers were charged with attempted second-degree murder charges in Jena, Louisiana. There were rallies, online petitions, a legal defense fund was created, The New York Times, New York Post and LA Times all covered the events. John Mellencamp even wrote a song in support of the Jena 6, as they came to be known as.

Why? Because the leaders showed up. They went to the rallies. Among those in attendance? Civil rights activists Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton and Martin Luther King III. Rappers Mos Def and Salt-n-Pepa showed their support, as did New Orleans Mayor Ray Nagin. Rapper-actor Ice Cube took it a step further, funding buses to bring protesters from California.

Who was at Lawrence King’s funeral? Where were our leaders?

In this star struck culture, the way to draw attention to an issue is to put a recognizable face out front to draw the press out. Where were Joe Solmonese of HRC, Matt Foreman of NGLTF, Kevin Cathcart of Lambda, Kate Kendall of NCLR, Neil Giuliano of GLAAD? Ellen DeGeneres did her part, but what about the newly out Cheyenne Jackson? Cynthia Nixon? Melissa Etheridge? Where’s the song from Elton John? It takes leadership to bring make the kind of public statement that surrounded the Jena 6.

But we don’t have that….